How are you?

by Jon Sullivan - 2022-01-18 - Jonism

<<<<< previous blog         next blog >>>>>

"The mind can weave itself warmly in the cocoon of its own thoughts, and dwell a hermit anywhere." - James Russell Lowell

First of all, let me say that Facebook's Social Graph architecture can go fuck itself. This is why we need social democracy people. Facebook shouldn't control this stuff. While the concept of egalitarian meta tags may be a bit off the beaten path, letting crazy billionaires control the Internet is a bad idea. Congress needs to grow some balls, strip Facebook of it's complete sovereignty, and give control back to the people.

But I'm fine. Thank you for asking.

I don't remember who said this, but somewhere I remember running across the idea that true freedom only comes after loneliness. I think it was Rob. But basically the idea that unless you are alone, you take on endless obligations and expectations. And while selfish, being alone means you are only compelled to deal with your own happiness and needs. Where compromises must be made you are free to make them however you like and purely for your own happiness.

All that might make you a shitty person and a bad neighbor in the eyes of many, but it decouples being alone from loneliness. I always dance like no one is watching. Obviously.

"You've got to dance like there's nobody watching, love like you'll never be hurt, sing like there's nobody listening and live like it's heaven on earth." - William Purkey

While that quote is likely all about self-confidence and bravery, in the Jon context it's more about establishing a lifestyle where all those are automatic. The classic Stoics considered such a context to be an important virtue. Even heaven on Earth. As an atheist, the only heaven I need is my little Hobbit hole. It's lonely, and thus I'm happy. Joyous even.

Obviously there are non-lonely things I don't have that could also bring joy. A partner, concerts, dinner with fellow foodies, conversations. I could keep chasing all those. Instead I choose joy.

<<<<< previous blog         next blog >>>>>
Sign-In With Google To Leave a Comment:
<<<<< previous blog         next blog >>>>>
News
Eugene weather
39.74 degrees F, Mist (mist)
Min: 37.02 ,Max: 41.38 ,Humidity: 92, Wind: 3.44
Eugene, OR - Best Restaurants
Eugene, OR - Things to do
Eugene, OR - Fish reports
Oregon road conditions
Recent Posts
- Stoicism vs Epicureanism
    Should happiness be the result, or should it be the goal?
- Thanksgiving 2022
    Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. This year was perhaps my favorite Thanksgiving.
- Introspection
    I'm settled in in Oregon now. Most of the chaos is past. Let's look around and see where we are.
- Snippets
    As I settle in and kick back to think about this new life, I'm slowly figuring out how deep this all goes.
- Jon is rich
    One of my currencies, how I measure my value, is how many great photos I'm taking.
- Jon is a weirdo
    I keep thinking about how I've changed over the last three years. Let's break it down and put it to rest.
- Shambles
    New Jon is weird. Old Jon was weird. Life in Oregon is weird. It's weird all the way down.
Food I Cooked
Old School Blogroll
kottke.org
Home of fine hypertext products.
MetaFilter
A community weblog.
A Chicken Is Not Pillage
You forgot his exclamation point! It defines him. He put it there for a reason, to show how in! your! face! he is.
jessamyn.com
abada abada - twenty years of jessamyn
Matt Haughey
A Whole Lotta Nothing
dooce
Heater, Mother Of Lance
Anil Dash
A blog about making culture. Since 1999.
Some Bits
Nelson's weblog
Everlasting Blort
proud member of the reality-based community
Whatever
This machine mocks fascists
Scripting News
It's even worse than it appears.
Flutterby
Short attention spans in a world full of flowers
mimi smartypants
Seriously, though: what's with the penguins?
Montreal City Weblog
Stupid Evil Bastard
What the fuck is wrong with you people?
Idle Words
brevity is for the weak
Making Light
Say what you mean. Bear witness. Iterate.
wilwheaton.net
50,000 Monkeys at 50,000 Typewriters Can't Be Wrong
Justin Hall
Growing & breaking down since 1994
Mike the Mad Biologist
Helping idiots who desperately need my assistance by calling them fucking morons since 2004
jwz
MSSV
AKMA’s Random Thoughts
Ruminations about hermeneutics, theology, theory, politics, ecclesiastical life… and exercise.
things magazine
An occasional weblog about objects, collections and discoveries
Miscellaneous Heathen
Hold to the now, the here, through which all future plunges to the past.
kimberussell.com
where it's always Virgo Season
Cockeyed
Recent Trips
Getting it ready for you.