Jon is a fool?

by Jon Sullivan - 2022-07-01 - Status

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A few people have voiced concerns that all the Oregon shite is happening a bit fast.

So first of all thank you for caring. The concerns make sense to me. But second, no, it's not happening fast. It's been happening very very slowly for years. All the maps, all the lists, all the research have been a constant for years now. Probably since dad died. The initial plan was to do it after retirement, but the shitty economy puts that out of reach for a few extra years. So we do it now, as I'm getting too old for this shit. But even that decision to do it early has been percolating for over a year.

But I get it. It's weird. "Hey everybody, I'm throwing away almost everything I own and moving to within a few miles of [the elephant in the room]." Yeah. I can see that setting off a few alarm bells. But it's really not sudden, and it's really not about [the elephant in the room]. It's the plan, and the plan hasn't changed. Go all the places, take all the photos, eat all the food. It's simple and I insist on simple.

Okay. So the elephant in the room. No, I am not moving there to be with Marilee. Marilee and I aren't a couple. We won't be living together. She has her Oregon life, I have my Oregon life. I'm sure we'll see each other more than we do now, since I'll be there. But I'm not going for that. She has a very full life which brings her great joy. So do I. You've seen us together at solstice, obviously we're more than just old friends. But if people need to put a label on what our relationship is, I don't have much to offer. It just sort of is. It's good. I like it. And with Marilee I've fucked it up over and over. I'm very focused on not fucking it up again. So we've talked through that and there are boundaries we're both happy with. There is this weird relationship we're both happy with.

Of course I'd love to spend more time with her, and I'm sure I will. But mostly my Oregon life will be just as it is in San Diego. Alone. By myself. It works.

I can FEEL you all scowling at me. Ask yer questions. I'll respond. Or ask Marilee, as her story is pretty awesome right now.

I know I'm overdoing this. But I'd just like it put to bed. So...... it's not rushed, and Marilee and I aren't a couple. But ask yer questions and air your concerns. Go ahead. Let's have it.

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